“The Son of Man …a friend of tax collectors and sinners” (Matthew 11:19, NIV)
I’m not that popular. But I have known a few people who have tried hard to be my friend. But the more they tried, the more I’ve run away. Why? Because authentic friendships are based on freedom rather than ‘forcing.’ I’m sure you have met people like this. Their over-eager and over-do always suffocated us before the friendship even begin. You and I, too, have the tendency to try hard to ‘force’ ourselves when we try to make friend with others.
If you are in need of friends – be yourself. I mean, don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. It is worthy to ask why Jesus was a good friend. What is clear when I read the Gospels story is that Jesus was always Himself. It is impossible to think of a meeting where Jesus puts on some sort of pretentious act to impress people. Jesus didn’t find His value in other people; He didn’t need people’s approval or appreciation. His security was always rooted in the fact that His Father loved Him. He didn’t get this from friends, but from time alone with God. Therefore, He being friend with others not to get something from them but because He being Himself always (Note: By being Himself, Jesus was not only winning many friends but also make enemies because hypocrites hate authentic friendships).
To be ourselves is the stepping-stone to all friendships. People generally will try to avoid those who a lack in security, too talkative and too withdrawn. Now that we’re Christians, we must remember that God’s favour is with us and nothing else can stand against us – not even people’s reactions to us. Just be yourself in Christ. Everyone needs friends. Everyone needs good friends. Everyone appreciate when you being yourself.
THINK BIG. START SMALL. GO DEEP.